Another Word…by Gus Keiser

November 6, 2017

Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of malicious behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Jesus Christ has forgiven you.

                                                                                                                           Ephesians 4: 31-32

 It was either late in the spring or early this past summer that I was able to obtain from a co-worker who had just moved into a new house, some rather large, but one-person manageable, granite landscaping stones. I remember how much of a job it was to load about fifteen or so of these boulders into the car and then have to unload then in the back of our property where they sat until late this past Saturday afternoon.  I picked then up in anticipation of creating an above ground wishing well in our lower yard opposite a planter area I created two summers ago.  I finally started on the well project last weekend, creating the walkway to the well, putting in the vertical posts to support the roof and stacking three old tires that will eventually be painted and disguised to create the well itself.  After having done some painting of the uprights and a few other unrelated, but necessary projects in the yard; I decided to call it quits for the afternoon.  But about an hour later, I had this urge to move the rocks to the area near where I’m building the well so that I can figure out which ones will go where when I begin to stack then around the well.  I have a four-wheel hand truck that I planned to use to move them, but it still meant that I’d have to hand load and unload them and also pull the loaded hand truck through the yard, which I did over a period of about a half hour or so.  The one problem with that process was that I’d forgotten just how heavy some of those rocks were, so by the time I was done, I was incredibly tired and sore.

It was while I was moving those heavy rocks Saturday that I found myself thinking about Paul’s words above. I thought: “If a grudge was something physical, it would be a lot like these rocks. It would be burdensome, tiring and pain producing!”  Grudges can be very similar to carrying a bunch of rocks because they’re heavy and weigh a person down.

Interestingly, we have, through our English language, developed some pretty fascinating words related to grudges. We often talk about grudges much the same way we talk about babies.  For example, we can hold a grudge.  We can carry a grudge.  We can put it on our shoulder and bear a grudge.  And we even talk at times of how we can nurse a grudge.

Think about that last statement for instance: when you nurse something, you feed it to keep it alive, which, in turn, makes it grow. You can feed that grudge with hostile thoughts, angry feelings, distorted perceptions, and harmful intentions, and if you do, that grudge is going to grow.  Besides all that, the real tragic thing about grudges is that people will walk around and carry them for days, weeks, and even lifetimes.  And although they weigh us down and are joyless, we still can’t wait to get up in the morning so that we can once again carry that grudge throughout our day.

Now for a dose of truth-telling: grudges don’t add to your life! They strip you of joy.  They take away your potential of turning into a more loving, kind, gracious and merciful person.  You won’t become the kind of person you want to be as long as you insist upon carrying around grudges.  God knows that, too!  That’s why the Bible is very clear about the type of relational virus that a grudge is.  It infects you, then spreads throughout your entire life.  That’s why God is always telling us to “let it go”.  Don’t you think it’s about time to trade in those grudges and replace them with Christ’s life-giving love?  Right now, why not take a little time to just stop and reflect on all the ways God showers you with his love.  It’s time to you lay down your grudges and make it your goal to pass along God’s love to others instead.

God, please, no more bitterness or anger within us toward others. Instead fill our hearts with your love, your mercy and your forgiveness.  Thanks, God.  Amen.

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